I’m a shit friend because I’m a workaholic.
Not fully true but if we are simplifying the facts, that’s what it is.
I am going into a highly competitive industry people are out of work so I feel like I have to put my all into my degree (although I try not to be competitive there as it’s a learning environment and collaboration is more beneficial) and I try to get as much extra experience as possible. I work late, I work weekends and I definitely work holidays.
I adore my friends and I would go to any lengths to show that but, the truth is, sometimes I find my career creeping in and taking that time.
I have a friend who is completely on point… unless she has a boyfriend.
She’s incredible. You can see the effort she puts into maintaining friendships but when she is with a guy she loves, her time is weighted in that direction. I can’t ever be bitter about this. She is exactly the same as me but her ‘time distraction’ is about love rather than work.
I have a friend who is completely on point… unless there is the option to get home for the weekend.
She is a really great friend and a wonderful person but when the opportunity arises to go home, she’s on the first train. She’s not a bad person and she loves all of us. She’s just a homebird and being away from her family is difficult for her. That is her ‘time distraction’.
There are a million more examples. Whether it’s work, home, family, boyfriend, other friends, flatmates or a time consuming hobby, we all have something which takes up our time and attention that makes it difficult to be the ‘best’ friend.
I just like the fact that now we’re a bit older, we can understand these things and still be amazing because of it. Everyone tries their hardest. Everyone makes sacrifices. I’ve learned to do my best to understand what makes other people tick.
Because. I’m a fucking nightmare.